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Dr. Troy P. Roddy

Monday, January 27, 2014

"Liking" Middle School

Here is some advice for those of you searching for a way to break through with a middle school student. I have found it to be one of the most important approaches I have taken in my work to help middle school students discover more success and satisfaction in their school experience.

At many levels, middle school students are all about relationships: where they fit in, how they maintain the relationships they have, how to build new ones, how the world they are discovering fits into their relationships and how those relationships fit into their worlds. Middle school students are particularly driven by being liked. It is a natural part of their development. Being aware of this aspect of how they see the world, can provide a way to support their efforts in school.

While many parents ask their children, "Do you like your teacher?" However, if you want to get an insight into a middle school student's relationhip with his or her teacher, flip the question. 

Ask, "Do your teachers like you?"

Student/teacher relationships are one of the more compelling factor in student achievement. If you believe achievement is the product of effort, then it might be reasonable to predict that those same relationships may have an effect on the mount of effort the student makes in a particular class. When you look at this in light of the research on praising effort and nurturing a growth mindset, finding a way to explore the strength of the student/teacher relationship takes on a whole new importance.

So, what do you do with the answer you get?

I will explore some possible answers in my next few posts.